Ahhhhhhhgggg! Ahhhhhhhgggg!

Just when I thought I my life and my mental health was back to normal (after the divorce) then I'm thrown this curve ball.

A Little Bit Stronger by Sara Evans

On Tuesday, I discovered I had a message on facebook. I never received an email message about it and so it was 2 weeks old. It was from a woman who was wanting to ask me some questions about my ex husband, his personality, etc. I immediately sent her a message back with my phone number, hoping that it was NOT TOO LATE! The next day I got a message from her, telling me that they had met online 5 years ago, and then this spring met online again and she MARRIED HIM!!! (that's where the very loud ahhhhhhggg comes in!) She lives in Canada and they eloped. He moved in with her, hasn't worked, has been tormenting her and her kids like he did me and mine! She called me on Thursday and we talked for nearly 2 hours. It was total deja vu talking to her. He learned nothing from our marriage. I now feel vindicated in divorcing him after 9 months. He will not change! We began emailing back and forth, she was extremely confused. I told her that it was NOT HER! I told her that she needed to get out fast before she lost her kids, her mental health and more of her precious time and resources. I told her that it would NOT get better, only worse. That night they had a fight and he kept her up all night, and she has to go to work at 5 in the morning. I guess he figured he was in the dog house so he used his 8 hours of doing nothing time to write her a 17 -- YES I SAID SEVENTEEN -- page letter! She sent it to me through email. I read it all and it was his usual BS. I then sent her a few of his letters to me so that she could see that this was a pattern. I told her that I was a lot more compliant than she has been, and he was still critical and unhappy with me. So last night she told him she was done. 

Then this morning I got a phone call and I thought it was her. It was Lane! Thus the second Ahhhhhhhgggg! I got a chance to yell at him a bit but he said he only called me to ask me one thing...."When you talked to her, did you say any of the good things about me?" I said NO! (I should have said H--- NO!  Or, what good things? ) He then told me that this was none of my business, and I replied that she had contacted me. He then said that she was not my stewardship and that I would have to answer to God for it someday. Then he hung up.

The good news is that she emailed me tonight and told me that she discovered that Lane and the minister both forgot to sign the marriage certificate, so luckily she won't have to go through any legal red-tape. Her bishop came and got him out of her home and told her that she had been deceived and to disregard any crap he had fed her, which is his version of the gospel.

This post is red and bold because I have been pretty pissed off all day. And for a while I felt the same anxiety I felt when he was in my life.    It was icky!

JERK!

First day of school

My boys all ready for their first day of school. August 17, 2011

Chance's Eagle Project

This was the best Eagle project EVER! Not because it was the best project, but that it was over and done with in 2 weeks from start to finish. We still have the paper work to do, but from idea, to planning, to getting approval signatures, to the actual work, was only 2 weeks. AWESOME! Wanna know the secret? Call your elementary school principle (or any school principle for that matter) 2 weeks before school starts and most likely he will have something that he needs done before school starts. And having a short time limit is the best thing to light a fire under your teen boy who would rather go play.

BEFORE

This curb is yellow.....

Painting the "Time Out" box

The littlest helper

The smaller playground

...and this curb is green.

The fire drill line

4 square court

Tether ball

Hopscotch anyone?

Lovely stencil work huh?

A work of art!

The happy results of hard work

Remember this?

 This is what it looks like now!

We have harvested yellow and zucchini squash, tomatoes, peppers, cabbage, beets, radishes, broccoli, green beans, basil, parsley, sage, cucumbers, and the corn is coming on. The celery and eggplant are growing well. The potatoes plants are growing great but we won't see what lies underground for a few months yet. I've got about 30 granny Smith apples, and 2 golden delicious...lol! Probably won't get any melons, (boo hoo!) but the pumpkins and spaghetti squash are growing like gangbusters! The green that you see on the right side of the garden is alfalfa. The soil isn't very good on that side so I'm growing a cover crop to try to  improve it. I was going to do the whole east side but it is a lot of work when your tiller is only 10 inches wide! Oh well. There is always next year.

I love to garden!

2011 River Trip

Every year, my brother-in-law plans a Snake River rafting trip. Some years we go, some years we don't, This year we went, although I was nervous about it because of the wet, cold spring we had. I didn't want to camp in the cold or the mud. But it turned out to be a fun trip. We left on Wednesday and stopped at my good friend Sandy's house. She lives about 1/2 hour from the river. We spent the night and then she gave us a tour of the mine she works at the next day. Later we joined my family at the campsite.

The view from Sandy's house in Auburn, WY.

 

This is what Sandy drives. What fun!

Sandy and Elise

A view from the top

The river was deeper, faster and different this year. After 6 out of 9 passengers were dumped out of the boat on the first run, including the guide, I opted out this year. I just don't like being cold and wet and scared.

So, it was 2 years ago, July 5th that I met Lane for the first time. The river trip was the first time that my family met him. So I thought that I'd use this trip as a symbolic time to purge. During our relationship, I had made a book of memories, pictures and love letters. I found some quiet time in the mornings in front of the fire and burned it, page by page. This was the last page I burned. I took a picture of it, and if Lane ever bothers me again, I will send it to him.

Happy Birthday Elijah!

Magic candles!

June 2011

 Afro Boy!

 A flock of something that has been hanging about the neighborhood.

Nearly as big as eagles but not sure that they are. 

Besides, eagles don't usually hang out in such large groups. 

We have counted as many as 10.

 Elijah lost his 2 front teeth.....and his marbles too!

 Cool idea, but something seems to be wrong...

The garden is all planted, plus 10 new trees.

There's my 2 best rock-picker-uppers!